Self-belief will help get you through the tough times, and then propel you towards your goals in the good times. If you suffer from a lack of self-belief, all hope is not lost! You can begin to cultivate it by following the tips:
- Identify Your Negative Feelings
You need to recognize and acknowledge the negative feelings you have about yourself. You can’t just stick your head in the sand and ignore them. Think about them, write them down and say them out loud. Make a mental note to catch yourself when you start thinking about these things.
- Keep Track of Your Wins
Take some time to write down a list of your “wins.” These can be successes you’ve had in your life, relationships that matter to you, and anything else you are grateful for. Anytime your self-talk starts the mantra; you aren’t good enough; reflect on the list to remind yourself that you are.
- Ask Others For Positive Feedback
We are often our own worst critics. Take some time to reach out to people you trust and ask them what they think your strengths are. You might be surprised by what you hear.
- Work On Your Competence
Competence breeds confidence. If you lack self-belief, one of the best things you can do is commit to lifelong learning. The more you know about a subject, the more confident you will be in your abilities.
- Focus On Your Strengths
Stop beating yourself up over what you lack. Instead of worrying about the things you can’t do well, focus on the things you can do well.
- Stop Comparing
One of the worst things you can do is compare your circumstances to others. First off, there is no race, and you don’t have to compete with anyone. Secondly, you have no idea what kind of lives other people live.
- Take Care of Yourself
If you lack self-belief, don’t let that hold you back from taking care of yourself. Commit to eating right and exercising. You will naturally feel better about yourself if you are actively working towards a healthier lifestyle.
- Visualize A Confident You
Even if you don’t feel confident, act as if you are filled with confidence. Take time to visualize what you would be like with limitless self-belief. Don’t be afraid to think big either. Imagine yourself with everything you want – including a new confident attitude.
- Set a Goal
The mere act of setting a goal can instantly help you feel more confident. Even if you doubt your capability to achieve the goal, taking action and working towards this goal will build the momentum you need.
Start to keep a list of all of your successes and wins. You can use a simple notebook if you want, or an app like Evernote.
When you lack self-belief, you can refer to this list to see just how much you can (and have!) accomplished.
Take some time to list your strengths.
If you are struggling to come up with enough, then reach out to loved ones and ask them.
They may come up with some strengths that you never even knew you had.
Now it is time to set a goal.
Choose a simple goal that you could realistically accomplish in a week or two.
Write it down – and go for it!