Life has a way of always making us doubt ourselves. It can rattle you until you feel like you cannot go on. That is probably the reason why we often feel the only way to survive is just to stop working towards our goals. The hope for progress, growth, and success dwindles until you decide throwing in the towel is the best decision you can make.
The art of giving up is one our minds learn over the years by meeting challenges and being subjected to failure and disappointments. Sometimes we get to a point where we conclude it is easier to let go now than deal with the pain of losing later—the repeated thoughts of quitting end up mapping a pattern in our minds. We get hammered into the irresistible cycle of giving up when challenged or when we meet the smallest huddle in our path.
In the mind of a quitter, the words perseverance, persistence, and determination become foreign. In the face of any adversity, the viable choice for quitters will always be to give up. When the mind is infested with the quitting bug, it automatically loses its fluidity, your mind becomes static and stops dreaming or looking beyond what you think are your capabilities.
Failure, just like success, can be predictable. Our actions and efforts determine the kind of result we are most likely to obtain. Once you have chosen to take the easy road, you automatically become a failure at whatever it is you were working on. Keep in mind that failing is not the worst thing that could happen to someone. If you fail once, try again next time, and you will have a double chance of succeeding. However, once you quit, you have already reached the end of the line.
Quitters have their language; they speak in excuses as they try to justify their choices. Here are some of the most common phrases among quitters:
- What if l fail?
The fear of failure paralyzes us. Thoughts of disappointments and shame hinder us from persistently working on our dreams. The only way to get over the fear of failure is to look at failure as an opportunity to learn and be progressive. You have to understand that in every path to success, risk-taking plays a significant role as well. Life in itself is a risk, so do not let the fear of failure turn you into a quitter.
- I do not have the time now
This statement goes around a lot among quitters. In the face of adversity, when their goals and dreams are being challenged, as an escape plan, quitters try to lessen the blow before it comes by convincing themselves there isn’t enough time to accomplish the task at hand. They lack the patience and perseverance to keep trying and to keep investing time on the task in question.
- There is no reason to go on
Often when things do not go our way, life throwing us curveballs and punches to the face, beat down and disappointed, we lose hope, but we must still find a reason to go on. We need to keep trying because, unlike quitters, winners always have a reason for getting back up and giving it yet another shot.
- I am not good enough for this
Feelings of inferiority and low self-esteem are the main reason why people choose to give up fighting for what they believe in. Quitters often compare themselves to other people and conclude that they are less talented and less skilled than the next person.
- I’m not smart enough
The ultimate power of our species is the ability to learn and acquire as much knowledge as we deem necessary to accomplish any task at hand. Once one puts their mind to it, there are no limitations. Impossible ceases to exist. In a quitter`s mind, it is impossible to learn and acquire the skills and knowledge required to finish the task they have started.
- I can`t find motivation or inspiration
Most times, people end up giving up due to a lack of motivation, a lack of inspiration, or the external stimulation to keep going on. It is not wrong to get a push from the outside, but your whole will to accomplish a task should not be hinged on external motivation. Let the stimulus come from inside. Find the right reasons why you want to do that particular task and accomplish it. When things go sideways, that will always be your motivation.
- Maybe it is not meant for me
When your mind is harboring the quitting bug, it is easy for you to blame it all on fate or luck. This belief that what is meant to be yours will be yours requires no effort on your part. You forget that even that which is meant for you, you need to work towards it. Instead of working hard to accomplish a goal, you use “the other person is just lucky” as an excuse to quit.
- No one understands what l am going through so they cannot help
Novelty is somewhat an illusion under the sun. Whatever you are doing or you are going through, someone has been there before. In moments when you feel like you cannot do it anymore, you ought to find a helping hand or council to avoid quitting.
- They are doing better than l am
A comparison often births dissatisfaction. We start looking down on our effort and what we can do when we cross-reference with the next person. The only person you can compare yourself with for growth is you.
- I am too tired
Too tired? But who isn`t, life drains us sometimes, but that shouldn`t mean you quit. Be patient with yourself, rest, and get back at it!!